Anonymous asked: Hi♥ you guys are amazing is what I wanted to start out with. So I struggle a lot with body image-I know I'm not unattractive or fat or anything, I'm just always surprised when I guy finds me attractive. I am infatuated with a guy I can't find the nerves to talk to. He's in the grade above me and I have connections to him, I just don't know how to go about doing it considering I loathe myself. Any help to gain confidence?
This same thing happened to me last year, I was really scared to talk to this guy (he was also older than me) because I thought I wasn’t good enough for him. So what I did was: even though I didn’t have much confidence back then, I had a couple good friends who encouraged me to talk to him.. One of them even asked for his number and we started talking on facebook and then at school. You don’t always have to come up to someone face to face, social networks make it all easier. You need to make sure you talk to them personally too.
Confidence isn’t easy, at all. It’s not something you earn over night and not something others can give you (they can help you with positive comments but if you don’t see yourself in a positive way you won’t be confident). You need to change the parts of you that you’re not that comfortable with, and accept the ones you can’t, even if you really want to. And by accepting it I mean not caring about it. I was and still am a little bit self conscious about my legs but I learned not to care. Yeah I don’t like them so what? They’re just legs! Confidence comes with time, you’ll notice that as you get older you’ll stop caring about half the things you worry about now, so just give it time.
Bottom line, try to talk to him as soon as possible and you’ll see it’ll go fine. I did talk to the guy I met last year and he’s my boyfriend now so, I hope this encourages you to do it :)
Anonymous asked: A long time ago, I posted about how I have a relationship with a married college professor.... well... had. I officially ended "us" a month ago. We agreed to be friends. I'm very happy now that I'm free to be who I want to be. I'm just feeling a bit hopeless because I really did fall in love with him, and it's hard for me to become better since I was at my best with him. I don't want to need him to be at my best anymore. I just don't know how.
You just need to give it time. You can’t forget someone you’ve been in love with just like that. These will be hard times, but eventually your feelings will fade away. Just do lots of activities, go out with friends, just let it be. One day you’ll find another guy who will make you forget about this one. You just need to be a little bit patient and hold on.
Anonymous asked: hello, so I know you get a bunch of these a day and I'm so sorry and hope you get to sort through them and get to everyone questions, but I'm almost 15 and I'm 5'0 and I weigh 155 lbs. most people don't say I look fat but I feel like it all the time. and it irks me. I want to be 120, at the least, but nothing ever works..
Whenever someone says they want to lose/gain weight because they don’t like the way they look, I totally support them and even motivate them to change their lifestyle so they can achieve their dream body. If you think losing weight would make you feel better, then do it.
You just have to be really determinate. You can’t expect to see results right away. Every person is different so some of us might get results later/sooner than the others.
You need to combine an healthy diet with lots of exercise. Do some research online or if you can, go to a nutriciunist and a gym. If you can’t, just run a lot (specially in the morning or beside the sea, because you are more energized/motivated to run), drink lots of water, eat lots of vegetables, fruit. Don’t forget to eat 6 times a day with small portions so you never starve. Eat healthy snacks between your meals. If you don’t eat for a long period of time, at the end of the day you will eat a lot more. Cut off the sodas, the junk food, etc. Do exercises to tone your body, like squats, lunges, among others. You need to make sure your muscles run so make a schedule and follow it religiously. For example: On Mondays, Wednesdays and Sundays go for a run. On Tuesdays do your squats and lunges, on fridays work your belly and Saturday can be your rest day. This is just an example, do whatever your confortable with.
I hope you reach your goal in an healthy way.
Anonymous asked: Hi. I've been struggling with what I believe is an undiagnosed eating disorder for a very long time and whenever I've tried to reach out for help - counsellor, doctors, parents... I don't get anything in return. I really feel stuck in this and I feel I need to be reassured with a diagnoses or treatment rather than being lost all the time but I don't know how to open up any more because I feel like it isn't important or bad enough to get help due to what has been happening..
Whenever something isn’t working right for us, weather it’s a service, a relationship, anything, we change it. If the people you talked to aren’t helping you, you need to find other people. I think you should have a serious conversation with your parents explaining everything. If you can’t tell them face to face what’s happening to you, write them a letter and then talk to them. It will be easier. This step is really important because they may think this is something that will go away. If you do have an eating disorder it will not go away that easily. After talking to them about it, tell them to do some research about the subject so they understand how it can affect your life. After all this I’m pretty sure they will do everything they can to help you, if a doctor doesn’t do his job right, they will find another for you. Don’t be afraid to open up, there are so many good professionals out there who will make it easy for you. Don’t worry. I hope everything goes alright.
Anonymous asked: Hello lovely people ! I've visited this blog a few times in the past and your advice has given me so much potential and I'm so grateful for beautiful people like you! I was just wondering what you thought on me. I'm a tall girl for my age, 14 years old and I feel like I'm a bit overweight for my age. I weigh around 60kgs but I do dancing for 2 hours a week and I do 30 min walks on the weekend and to be honest I need to improve my diet. What are your thoughts? xx
Hello doll. I’m so glad we have been able to do that for you :) Wow, you’re a hard worker. I really admire you. It seems to me like you are at a healthy weight, but I think you should talk to a doctor before taking any health/medical advice from anyone that doesn’t have a degree. I just want to make a quick disclaimer, any health related advice I give comes from my personal experience/research and I am NOT a professional. I think that you should take a rest day at least one day a week if you are not already. I think the best way to improve your diet is eat clean. Here is a good example of foods to eat. Remember a ‘YOLO meal’ is good every once in a while. xo Jenna
Anonymous asked: I haven't really had a normal relationship, but I have been deeply in love. But people judged me so badly for having a boyfriend who was 4 years older, who lived 700 miles away and I met on the internet. I had found love through the internet, and why was that so wrong? I mean if anything we had more in common and it proved we were strong. How do I move on, and why was I judged?
Hi, luv. Please watch this. I think there is nothing wrong and that you should live life shamelessly. It’s not important what others think, it’s your happiness that is important. People may be skeptical of online relationships because they are use to an age where everyone found their spouse or partner in the town they lived in. People aren’t always so open to change. You’re not always going to be able to get an answer as to why people are judging you are to why people do things honestly. You just got to keep living, you can’t have your whole world stop for every low life that thinks their commentary is necessary. Put your middle finger up in the air and do what makes you happy. xo Jenna
Anonymous asked: Lately I've been feeling really bad, like I'm angry at myself for not being able to kill me. I'm overweight but not really fat either I weight 65 kg and my height is 1,54 m. I don't feel comfortable in my body and I want to go to a fitness center but my mother won't pay and that's nothing but I try and I hate myself so much and I hate my parents and I try to like them but that's just impossible. I'm sorry I got confused with my English.. I'm just ugly and fat and stupid and nothing and pathetic
If you think that losing weight will make you feel better, you should do it! But make sure it is for yourself, not others.
If you want to work out you don’t need to go to a fitness center. Yes they do get better results because they have all the machines and personal trainers, but they can be really expensive. You can try googling some workouts/ diets and search for some videos on youtube and start doing it in your bedroom or wherever you like. In order to reach your goal you need to have lots of motivation and determination. It gets hard but it’s all worth it in the end.
Beauty isn’t physical. You’re not stupid, you’re not fat. You’re not any of those words. What you are can’t be described by words, remember that always.
Anonymous asked: Hi, so I'm 15, 5 feet 5 inches and i weigh around 110 pounds. I'm not usually very self conscious about how i look since i'm considered healthy. However, this year my family and i are going to the beach for 5 days along with two of my friends. They are both really skinny so in comparison to them in my two piece bathing suit, i look and feel fat. I also know for a fact that one of them mades crude remarks about how i look to others. I'm trying to stay confident but its very hard.
Confidence is not always easy.. It’s even harder when you get along with the wrong people. Toxic people only make you have lower self esteem, so if you can avoid that girl make sure you do.
I don’t think you have time to lose weight in a healthy way since it’s already June so all you have to do is be confident with what you have. You don’t even need to be confident, you just need to act like you are. Fake it ‘till you make it. If they notice one tiny insecurity about you they will try to make fun of that thing. Show up as if you’re strong like a rock, like nothing can bring you down. Sometimes you see really hot people as far as looks but then they don’t act confident and it kinda ruins it all. But if you have a really good attitude it will change the way people see you.
Remember, fake it ‘till you make it.
Anonymous asked: im 15 i weigh 105 and im 5 feet 1 inch. ive always been considered skinny. but im unheatlhy cause i dont do exersise but it always makes me sad becuase i have two friends that are more overweight. and they always grab my fat from my arm. like the flab and just shake it. and they always do that to my legs too. and it makes me feel fat. like i know they weigh more than me but i dont go around making their flab jiggle. i respect them. when they do that my self-esteem goes down and i feel fat.
Hello, luv. Believe it or not you are actually at a an ideal weight for your height. Just because you don’t exercise doesn’t mean you are unhealthy. Honestly babe they are just jealous. They pinch your fat to try to make themselves feel better about being overweight. Please ditch their sorry asses and make new friends. You deserve hell of a lot better. x Jenna
When I was younger, my parents got a divorce. Because of the divorce, my dad would take out all his anger and stress on me, just like he used to do to my mom. This made me a very insecure person because not only did it put me down, it made me feel like it was my fault. I couldn’t seem to find my own group of friends, and I felt like I had to fake my own personality; because to my dad, I was never good enough. I felt awkward, and felt that everything that I did was wrong and I would never get it right. I would cry every night because I thought I was such a failure. I would cry to the point where I couldn’t breath and felt like everything was closing in. On top of it, I used to stress out about my so called best friends because they made me feel like I was nothing to them. I hated going to school, and everyday I would look at myself and thing, “Why am I like this?” As the days went past after my parents told me that they were getting a divorce, I got closer to my mom. She is my inspiration. She used to tell me that if something that my dad would do/say was bothering me, to tell him and not hold it in. Because holding it in only makes it worse. As problem after problem rolled my way, I would start to tell my dad how I felt about it all. That’s where things got messy. My dad used to yell at me for making up things and making things worse. He said that I should of kept quiet because it was none of my business. That’s when I totally blew up and freaked out on my dad. I told him everything about how he made me feel like absolute scrap and how I don’t like what he was doing and treating everyone. Ever since that night, I grew a backbone. In other words, I am not afraid to stand up to my dad or point things out that aren’t right. Ever since the big move, I decided that it was time for me to change. I was able to get out of my comfort zone and able to start talking to people that I never knew, and make new friends. I know how to be a better person than I was before, and I’m not afraid to stand up and speak up for something that is not right. I know how to be a best friend to others, and I know how to be a responsible person. I’ve found my own hobbies that make me happy, instead of letting my dad decide what I’m going to do. I look forward to going to school everyday, and I know how to change negative situations into positive ones. But most importantly, I am a more positive person. I smile everyday, and talk to my best friends and mom about things that make me upset. I’ve also gotten closer to my aunt, who is also my inspiration. I look up to them because they helped me become the person I am now. If you ever get into any situation that seems impossible, just know that it will get better; only if you are willing to try. It will take some time, but it will turn out great. Let go of people who make you feel terrible. The one thing that I’ve learned is to never change yourself for other people. Stay true to who you are, and everything else will fall into place.